I am the type of person who stresses about the small stuff. Often I will get down on myself for not doing things perfectly and see any failures of those around me as my own for not being there to help them. I often think to myself “How do I do more for my kids.”
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Coming to Terms with my TRUE failures.
One of my biggest flaws is that I expect more from myself than I am capable of. I expect perfection and excellence in everything I do. This does not allow me to view myself as a success. I have been trying to figure out ways to allow myself to feel fulfilled with the progress I have made so far in my life.
I want to think of myself as a success and to be happy with who I am. If I can not achieve this at the age of 30 then how can I expect my children to love themselves.
Upon much reflection I have realized that I have been over critical of myself for a very long time.
The First requirement to answering How Do I Do More For My Kids is a look at yourself through your children’s eyes.
- What are your Day to day interactions like with them?
- Do you know how they feel about their day?
- How often do you give positive reinforcement?
- Do you understand what you mean to them and their routine?
A True Visual Of Myself
I work hard to keep myself motivated. Doing this allows me to run a home with four children, go to school full time and work part time as a Server/Manager of a Restaurant, not to mention keep a blog running. (The last one I haven’t been doing very well lately). Rarely do I have time for myself because I know working hard now will allow me to thrive later.
I take care of those around me more than I do myself. This lead to my battle with being overweight, autoimmune disorders and tendon pain throughout my body. Realizing this recently was a shocker. How do I do more for my kids? I can’t take care of anyone else unless I start to take care of myself.
This point in my life is definitely morphing me into a newer and better version of myself. I feel like I can see the path ahead of my clearly again for the first time in a long time.
The next thing we need to do when answering How Do I Do More For My Kids is look at who you are.
- Do you enjoy ample amounts of television?
- Does your family eat together each night at the table?
- How often do you exercise?
- Do you do more than you should in some areas of your life?
How Do I Do More For My Kids
I was able to properly understand that I was doing too much. Therefore I couldn’t find a proper answer to the question how do I do more for my kids. By realizing this I began doing research about how to get myself back of track. I want to live as well as possible and teach my children to do the same.
Another thing I want is to be there when they get out of school. It is also important to help them with their homework.
To answer the question How Do I Do More For My Kids you need to know what you want for them.
- What types of goals do you have for them?
- Is there a routine you would like to keep?
- Do you want to spend one on one time with them or group time?
- How do your wants align with theirs?
A Change Is What I Need
I found a new diet which is supposed to help me alleviate some of my ailments while allowing me to naturally lose excess weight so that I can feel better about myself and have more energy.
I am going to try The Plant Paradox Diet and hopefully it will work for me the way it has worked for so many others. Tracking the progress of this progress will be challenging because I am so often busy but I will do my best.
I am also going to give myself the benefit of the doubt and try to stop being so critical of myself. That way my children will benefit from a happier and more easy going mother.